Having boundaries and saying no are for other people to do, but it doesn’t seem like it is reserved for you to say or do. But saying no for sanity’s sake is essential for your mental and emotional well being. I met a young man, whom I had met AFTER I turned down the opportunity to help him.
An opportunity you may ask? It is awesome to be in the position to help someone. However knowing/learning that you have the right to say NO when you are not in alignment is the point of this story.
He is delightful and I got the chance to tell him that I was pleased to meet him AND why I couldn’t say yes.
It appeared as though we (Fitz and me) were the only ones to do help in his situation. This story is about choices vs shoulds. Even when it doesn’t look like you have a choice, please remember that you always DO!
Here is my truth. I HAD to say NO. It bubbled up from my gut. The word NO was quickly recited in my head and kept getting louder and louder before my husband could even complete the question. I didn’t care what it looked like, not EVEN to him (read: I could not (emotionally afford to) care).